There is something so hard for guys to admit that most would deny its obvious truth. The truth is too shameful.
The truth is that wherever you are is where you want to be. Whatever you are doing is what you want to do. You do not need to learn time management. You are managing your time exactly how you want to. It’s not a failure of willpower. You are exerting your will exactly as you want to.
Does your life suck? Do you suffer from some medical ailment? Are you fat? Do you have trouble meeting women? Are you in debt? Does your job suck?
If so, why haven’t you changed? It is 2013. Have you ever looked at this thing called the Internet? Have you been to a public library? Have you shopped at Amazon? Do you know about online message forums?
Pick the most obscure subject in the world and I guarantee there is a web forum devoted to it.
I had a strange skin ailment afflict me. This ailment is so rare that it’s not even diagnosed by most doctors. Yet there is a message board devoted to the subject. There are hundreds of people exchanging stories and tips. I was able to find the leading researcher on this ailment. I also learned that a trip to the Dead Sea will basically cure me. I just need to get “well enough” in order to take the trip.
If I can find out how to cure something that affects something like .0001% of the population, why are you fat and miserable? Why can’t you get laid? Why is your credit garbage?
It sure isn’t because you lack information. There are probably a dozen different dieting books that would help you lose weight. Paleo, vegetation, fruitarian, South Beach, Zone…Pick one. They will all work.
There are several game blogs and game forums. But you can’t get laid? Your girlfriend is a nag?
How many books are there with “personal finance” in the title? Suze Orman and Dave Ramsey’s books are cheesy but they undoubtedly work. No one who has actually followed the advice has ever said, “Total Money Makeover doesn’t work!” Buy one and follow it. That’s all it takes to become debt free.
The saddest secret in the world is that you’re miserable by choice. You don’t want to get better. You are content to wallow in your own fecal matter, like a hog.
I personally have no problem with that. It’s your life. Do your thing.
Just don’t act as if you aren’t, with each decision made day after day, singularly responsible for ruining it.
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Top article and very true.
I’m in the same boat as you and I have literally read thousands of posts, medical journals, research and books on the topic to no avail.
Could you please mention the mechanism on how the dead sea works, is it the chemical composition or low solar radiation?
new format. gotta say, i loved the old colour scheme and simple layout, but this one’s a lot easier for finding your old articles.
also, great article as per usual
This just mirrors the facts of your previous article about why MOST men never take action, and that is because somewhere deep down inside, beneath those layers of fatty underbelly they really are where they want to be.
RE New site format: You need to ‘logo-ize’ the Danger & Play text on the top banner ASAP. Its plain/boring look will cause new visitors to think the site may be plain/boring…which it most certainly is not!
It’s the line of least resistance and the reason that socialism is so popular, voting yourself the fruits of other people’s labor is so much easier than earning it yourself. Fat acceptance is easier than dieting. If only there was a way to vote yourself some other guy’s girlfriend.
“The saddest secret in the world is that you’re miserable by choice.”
So true… I have told that to more than a few people who don’t believe it. You can’t really help them – they decide how they view their life, and the life that they live. No one else can fix it for them – only they have that power. If they don’t want to fix it, you have to ask, “What is there about your present life that you enjoy?” Because there is something they are getting from it, or they would change it.
But you can’t help them – it is their choice, plain and simple…
Not a fan of the new layout, but still loving the content.
Like Tony Robbins says, people move either away from pain or towards pleasure. Most people spend their lives avoiding pain (i.e. hard work)
Real and powerful talk!