If you saw this girl, would you find her intimidating?
If you said no, you’re lying to two people – me and yourself. There’s no need for bravado She is as close to a 10 as it gets. Wars are fought over women who look like her.
When you start out in the game, approaching nearly any girl takes a bit of courage, which is why most men cannot do sober approaches. Approaching a chick like her, even if you’ve been at this for a while, is going to give you a bit of an adrenaline rush. How do you overcome your approach anxiety?
It is easy, and I will tell you why:
The chick you think is way too hot to approach is with some guy. If you saw that guy, you would not be all that impressed.
Seriously. Look around. Haven’t you ever seen a really hot girl with a guy and thought, “What’s she doing with him?”
You probably assumed the guy had a lot of money or something. It’s natural to have a hater’s response. “She’s a gold digger,” or to think like a loser, “If I were rich, then I’d get a girl like her!”
There are entire sites devoted to hating on guys who are with hot chicks. Just check out “The Dirty” or “Hot Chicks With Douchebags.”
The truth is that the guy isn’t nearly as special as you think he is. He doesn’t have a hidden billion dollar trust account. He just made the approach.
Here is that girl’s boyfriend:
It seems they’ve been together for a while, although even if this is a hoax, the point stands: For every chick you are too afraid to approach, there is a girl dating a guy you wouldn’t be impressed with.
So what’s stopping you from being the guy that some jealous hater scratches his head at and thinks, “What’s she doing with him?”
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If you have a decent opener that doesn’t scream sleazy pick up line, approaching is much easier.
I never thought of it that way. You didn’t really state how to approach a girl like that though, and that is practice. Do it enough and get that anxiety down to unnoticeable levels.
Got to take the really attractive women off that pedestal. The other thing is that even an awkward daytime approach will rarely get nuclear rejections (which are more likely when women are drunkenly disinhibited).
Approaching, especially at a young age, is usually all the contextual alpha you need to get things off the ground.
The picture works for the context of the blog post but man does that dude need to make sure she ain’t showing off like that in pictures or he’s gonna run into trouble down the line.
perfect.
what one man can do, another man can do.
Never approach with your head thinking, I need to get this girl, I need to impress, etc. Literally approach with the frame you are talking to one of your very good friends and let your game take over.
Uhhh…her boyfriend is Jonah Hill and he’s a rich and famous actor
No, it ain’t. Hat tip to the guy, whoever he is
Breast implants, lots of makeup, overly concerned with the picture on the phone versus her own facial expression in the mirror. First is impression is she’s lacking self esteem, not vindictive, and not attracted to violence, so no approach anxiety.
She is very beautiful, so I would have no hesitation wanting to escalate quickly, plus, since my first impression was a lack of attraction to violence, which the boyfriend picture confirms, I don’t have to worry about him really being a threat.
Approach anxiety for me boils down to a quick calculation of hotness divided by probability of violence. The hotter a girl is, the more violence I’ll deal with to get her. This girl is super hot, with no violent vibes, so no approach anxiety.
Let me expand upon that. It’s actually hotness divided by violence plus stupid shit, with the stupid shit being that I know I’m not the type of guy she usually goes for, so I’ll have to pull some dancing monkey routine to hit those buttons. Violence is more important, for the obvious reason, and because the more dancing monkey I have to do, the less I want the girl.
Fuck. I’m jealous …