One of the most commonly asked questions on game forums goes something like this:
How can I explain what I am doing to my family? My mom tells me I should settle down with a good girl. My dad thinks my lifestyle is immoral. My brothers and sisters judge me. What can I do?
The short answer is that you don’t explain shit. Unless someone is living the life you want to live, why are you even listening to them?
People don’t like how you are living? What have they accomplished? What qualifies them to tell you anything about life?
Oh, because they are family?
So what? My brother is a shit face who just got out of prison for shooting his meth dealer. I haven’t talked to him in a decade. Why would I associate with such a scumbag? Because he’s family?
Guess what mother fuckers, you are only responsible for your own choices. Did you chose your family?
I would love having a cool younger brother. It would be bad ass to hit the gym with a guy with whom I had 30+ years of shared history. It’d be awesome to go into business together. It’d be great to run game.
But I didn’t get to choose my brother. Instead of having a legit dude who wanted to go places, I ended up with a real shit bagger. Fuck him.
Your mom doesn’t like how you live? Well, fuck that bitch.
Why does your mom – who should love you unconditionally - care more about some slut whose finger you’d put a ring on than about you?
Is your mom more loyal to her gender than to her own son? If that’s the case, you need to get rid of her.
Your dad doesn’t like your lifestyle? Well, fuck him, too. You dad was dumb enough to marry your mom. That’s proof enough he’s unqualified to say shit about the game.
You didn’t ask to be born. You don’t owe your parents anything. Your parents were motivated by evolutionary forces to procreate. They selfishly choose to have you. You can selfishly decide whether or not to keep them.
If you want to become a man, you will need to reject the losers. That includes your family.
Some may read this post and think I have a horrible relationship with my family. Those people (haters) would be wrong.
I have a great relationship with my father. I love him and will always be there for him.
I worship my grandmother. She was a matriarch who kept our family together when times were tough and she raised good sons.
But I love my family based on their merits and not out of some Hallmark card sentimentality.
If your family is holding you back, cut the cord and begin living life as a man.
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This speaks volumes.
When i was younger the girl i was dating, not a fwb but my actual gf whom i introduced to my mother as my gf decided to lose her shit about it. I’m black and my gf was a pale skinned ginger.
One morning after she slept over…i was still asleep but the bathroom in my bedroom ran out of toilet paper so my gf went to ask my mother for some. Suffice it to say my mother told her straight faced she doesnt want her son to be dating any girls who arent black. Its ok to visit but not sleep over. Predictably my gf was upset by this, as was i.
Suffice it to say that is when i lost all respect for her.
My dad knows how i am, he doesnt care as long as im happy and not breaking the law.
If you listen to my mom you’d think i was a career felon rape women on a daily basis.
As of right now i have no contact with her and havent spoken to her in over 8 years.
Shitty about your mom.
Black Woman are having issues as they aren’t the kind of woman black men/men want to date, this is what leads to this attitude. Their obesity rate is a lot higher then that of other races as well as the sassy attitude that has been prevalent among them. They are the ones who need to “shape” up if they want to be fit mates.
On the note of the post…
Loyalty is one of the most important qualities a man can have. Im not advocating accepting shitty behaviour. But casting people out because they have problems is weak, particularly your family. Not everyone is strong and sometimes people need help, if a family member has problems i see that as my responsibly. No one else is going to help them. Of course a point comes where it is time to say goodbye, it all depends on ones circumstances.
“Your dad was dumb enough to marry your mom. That’s proof enough he’s unqualified to say shit about the game.”
Brilliant point.
Agreed, I could have written this post. I really liked your “choose your crew” post and love this one even more. I have parents who are on the hoarding spectrum, two obese brothers, one of which nearly died this last weekend due to shitty life decisions and a bad case of alcoholism. Nothing in common with these people except they’re blood. Wife and I are high achievers in all aspects of life, our kids are the same, we try to keep them away from people like my family. Unfortunately, societal expectations dictate some semblance of peace and visitation at holidays such as Thanksgiving which for me and my “fantastic” family is this weekend. One of my best friends has divorced his mom because she’s such a waste of human flesh and is a cancer. More power to him I say. Great post!
“Unless someone is living the life you want to live, why are you even listening to them?”
excellent.
You can also calmly tell your family to mind their own business. A lot of times, people invite criticism by being very reactive. Especially, in parent-child relationships. If you react like a little kid, your parents will act like a little kid’s parent.
This advice would be very very difficult for me to implement, even if my family was directly hurting me or blocking my plans or ambitions. Although it doesn’t directly matter what they think, I do feel like a link in this long family chain and I would go far to help and support my family. If you hit me, it will cost you. If you hit my brother or sister then sorry, it will cost you plenty.
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I lucked out on this, my brother’s (while not a game guy) very red pill.
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