Years ago I would pore over Maxim magazine for articles answer the perplexing question, “How do you know if she’s interested?” These articles would teach you how to recognize when a woman was sending what dorks call “indicators of interest” (or IOIs). ”If she waves her finger through her hair while looking your way, she is interested.”
When talking to guys with high notch counts, though, I noticed (or, rather, failed to notice) something.
Players never say to one another, “Oh, she just looked my way, held eye contact for 3 seconds, and then turned away. I can now see that she is checking me out through the corner of her eye.”
Players see an attractive girl and make the approach, whether she is giving an IOI or not.
When you think deeply about it, looking for an IOI is inherently supplicating. Why do you need a woman’s permission before you approach her?
Men also look for IOIs to minimize the feelings of rejection. By only approaching women sending out strong signals of interest, the man is minimizing the chance he will be rejected.
But guys with high notch counts have all been rejected hundreds of times. Rejection is part of the game. So players don’t need the IOI safety net to catch them from the fall of rejection.
Although knowing body language is useful, players never wait for an IOI.
If you see a girl you like, make a move. If need her to give you an IOI before you’ll approach, you may as well duct tape you dick towards your asshole.
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