What color are your barista’s eyes? You probably do not make eye contact with people, and it’s costing you opportunities.
Making eye contact will teach you a lot about yourself and about others. The Power of Eye Contact.
If a girl looks down ground, she views herself as lower status than you. Do not neg or be cocky to a girl who looks down. She is already feeling insecure and you will sabotage the exchange if you go on strong. Go direct with a simple, “Hi.”
Girls who look to the side after making eye contact view you as an equal or an inferior. Run hard game on girls who look at you sideways. Use indirect openings, negs, etc.
If you look down, it means you’re submissive. If you look down after making eye contact with a woman, you have subconsciously told her that you’re a worm. You’ve lost the game.
Girls seem to enjoy getting into staring contests. Hold the gaze and then smirk. If she smiles back it means she is mirroring you reflexively. Call her over to you.
If you want to fuck with someone’s head, stare at her forehead. This is called the “power stare” and it’s extremely effective on women you meet out and it works in the workplace too.
If you don’t really care about your job and want to get out of the office, look down after your boss chews your ass. He will subconsciously process the eye movement as a sign of victory.
If you care about your career, make eye contact and hold it. To avoid a power contest that you are sure to lose (but you don’t want to submit either), divert your attention to something on your boss’s desk. Then say, “I never noticed _______ about ________ before.”
The only time I compliment a woman is when I compliment her eyes. But don’t just say, “You have purty eyes.”
Say, “You have an intense gaze. Do men sometimes find that intimidating?” Then start talking about how infrequently people make eye contact. If you say something like, “People spend too much time looking at their iPhones,” she is less likely to answer texts while you’re talking to her.
Women are addicted to eye contact. If you frame the conversation by talking about her eyes, you will make a deeper connection with her.
All women like to believe that their eye color changes. This is especially true of girls with green eyes. If a woman has green eyes, say, “What color does your eyes change to in the sun?”
A quick way to learn how to make better eye contact is to practice on baristas, cashiers, and clerks. Imagine you are taking a quiz tomorrow. The quiz will ask you the eye color of 10 people you interacted with the day before.
When buying coffee, ask yourself, “What color was the barista’s eyes?”
Then find out your co-workers’ eye colors.
If you can’t say what color a person’s eyes are, then you’ve failed the quiz.
Then move on to advantaged stuff like eye contact game.
Bonus tip: Your eyes will follow your chin. If you want to maintain good eye contact, keep your chin up.
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Brilliant. Every game running Alpha knows this is the absolute key to turn the tide on any woman in any situation.
I’ve been doing this for awhile now.
One thing I’ve noticed is that most people have those bland dark brown eyes.
fucking awesome post.
i remember reading an article out there about bill clinton and the power of eye contact. will look for it.
interestingly, it was written by michael ellsberg, the same guy who wrote the long essay about tucker max.
http://www.fourhourworkweek.com/blog/2010/11/21/bill-clinton-reality-distortion-field/
I’m guessing it’s better to make too strong of eye contact than to make weak eye contact? How would a guy know if he’s being too intense with the eye contact?
Trial and error. If you’re in the game for the long haul, what’s 100 mistakes in the grand scheme of things?
yohami also has a killer post about eye contact:
http://yohami.com/blog/2012/03/31/reader-mail-how-should-i-respond-to-a-girl-staring-directly-into-my-eyes/
he says to “taste” her eyes. don’t see it as a challenge.
@jari
the yohami post actually talks exactly about that.
the question to him was:
“How should I respond to a girl staring directly into my eyes? What should I do? are they trying to test my alpha-ness?”
I actually met an Aussie in a bar last week, and I challenged her to a staring contest. Always a good bit of fun, and great for macking. Except she meant even *with* blinking – the game ends not when someone blinks, but when someone looks away. We had our eyes locked on each other for at least a few solid continuous minutes, it was very trippy. *I* actually lost, when she asked me something and I looked away to recall it. Definitely try this little game out.
Great post, the ‘note her eye color’ is a great exercise. Also never heard of the forehead stare before.
Ended up taking her home and fucking her, she was even emotionally invested, obviously desirous of more intimacy but she was leaving town. I don’t think it made or broke the pickup, but it’s at least a tool in the arsenal.
*I hate
Good eye contact is one of those traits, like body language, that you can improve immediately. All you need is a mirror.
Bill Clinton had this trait nailed down; http://alpha-traits.com/charisma-bill-clinton-eye-contact-part-iii
I call women in Chicago who were those big sunglasses “Lady Bugs” because how they use them to avoid eye contact.
RSD tyler has a great video too, looking for it
Gold.
When I got serious about eye contact as part of my game, I began to notice tons of heretofore unknown attention from women. A lot of it was probably there before and I was just too clueless to notice.
I have used Roosh’s staring-contest-to-koss routine to great effect.
“Imagine you are taking a quiz tomorrow. The quiz will ask you the eye color of 10 people you interacted with the day before.”
This is key. This is something you can do, right this second, to immediately improve how people perceive you today.
This is the key to creating your own little bubble with a girl. One told me last week that it was like I was looking into her soul. At first it was felt strange and made me nervous, but with some practice it was energizing, and I could feel the girls locked in.
great post
An excellent post! I’m all about the eyes and their power!
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Nothing truer than the “power stare.” It throws off men and women alike, especially those who attempt to be intimidating.
ha. I guess I am a chick – my green eyes do change in different light. Recently a waitress from another part of the restaurant came over to me and asked (as I ate alone) ” is that your real eye color?” As she bored into my eyes with her own. I am recently divorced, concentrating on work (professional – high value) but this caught me unprepared. I did maintain eye contact – but said something lame – “yes, they are from my mother’s side of the family.” What should I have said?
Tom. you shoulda said “my eyes change color in the dark”. she will then go home, change out of her wet panties, pull out her candles, kick out her cats, invite you in, and bang you while you eye-fuck her.
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Brilliant post. Will be linking to this in a Best of the Manosphere.
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