A lot of players have a conscience. We think, “I’m not happy in this relationship, but this girl will kill herself if I dump her.” Instead of doing what’s best for ourselves, we do what is best for a woman.

I stayed in a relationship for far too long. I was afraid of devastating my ex, and so I ate the spoon fulls of shit she brought home every day.

Whenever I tried breaking things off, she freaked. She cried. She was vulnerable. I don’t kick dogs or spit on babies. Hurting a weak creature isn’t my thing.

So I would cave. I’d take her back. She’d then return to bitch mode.

Finally we ended things for good.

Six months later, she was in the best relationship of her life. She and I were bad for each other. Now she is happy.

Although I stayed with her ostensibly for unselfish reasons (“What will she do without me?”), it was actually my male ego that kept me in the relationship.

My male ego made me think I was so special that my ex would just die die die if I left her.

Do you really think you’re so special that she’ll never get over you?

If a girl is attractive, she’ll have forgotten about you in days.

Don’t let your conscience and ego prevent you from being happy. You’re not special. She will get over you.

Go forth and dump her.

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The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It.

The too long didn’t read/watch version:

1. Sleep more.
2. Meditate.
3. Exercise.
4. Eat a lot of vegetables/don’t spike your blood sugar with high glycemic foods.
5. Don’t feel guilty about your failings. Release your guilt. Let it go.

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In Brazilian Jiu Jitsu the objective is to strangle your opponent to the point of unconsciousness or to use leverage to apply enough pressure to a joint that if your opponent does not surrender, his arm, leg, ankle, or neck will break.

Although BJJ is fundamentally a violent sport, guys who stick with it are some of the most laid back, chill guys around. You don’t find many bullies at the gym because training martial arts kills your ego.

The first thing new students are told is to “check your ego at the door.” Although the ego ostensibly exists to protect you from the cruel world, the ego itself is fragile. It is an egg-shell thin helmet.

Tell a guy he is fat, ugly, or a loser. He’ll seethe and rage. He’ll be furious at the indignity. How dare he talk to me like that?!

Most men live in a fantasy world. We are all stars. Any guy who doesn’t offer to suck my dick is a hater.

I’ve never met a guy who, despite having never been in a fight, isn’t quite sure that he could handle himself. I’ve never met a man who wasn’t certain that the Hooters waitress wasn’t totally into him and that he could totally get with her if he wanted to.

Although some of us are excellent in some areas, for the most part we’re entirely ordinary. We live, shit, piss, cum, and die. Our egos lie to us.

Guys who can’t leave their egos at the entrance to the BJJ studio don’t last long. They can’t deal with the psychological blow of learning that, “I’m not special.”

After class, there’s usually an open mat or sparring. During a five-round sparring session, a new guy will be submitted 20-30 times.

Thirty times you are told, “I could break your arm. I could crank your knee, leaving you a cripple.”

Thirty times you are told, “If I didn’t let go of your neck, you would be unconscious. I could pin you down and fuck your ass. How you like me now?”

Being put into a situation where you are powerless isn’t something most men – especially “alpha males” – can do. Most guys wash out.

The guys who stick with training learn several valuable lessons. It’s only a game. You learn from each loss. Each loss makes you better. Most guys are home watching TV. Showing up is an accomplishment. Even the worst guy at the BJJ gym could defend himself against 80% of American men. What happens in training doesn’t matter. It’s only a game.

Now how does your ego harm your game?

I’ve had girls laugh in my face, throw drinks on me, tell me, “You need to take a shower,” call me the creepy old guy for showing up on college night. And that’s only the stuff that wasn’t so damaging that it hasn’t been repressed deep into my unconscious.

Who cares?

Going out on a Friday night isn’t a life-or-death situation. Some girls will hate me and try ruining my night. Some girls will love me. Sometimes nothing will happen and the night will be a total dud.

Before you go out, leave your ego at your apartment.

Have fun.

It doesn’t matter.

It’s only a game.

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What man hasn’t asked that question? Courtesy of BBC News, you have have your answer.

Using UN data on population size in 177 countries, together with estimates of global weight from the WHO and mean height from national health examination surveys the team were able to calculate average BMI figures for each country.

Using the values that you input into the calculator, it works out your BMI as well as where you are in relation to the rest of the population in your country and the world for your gender and age.

If your girlfriend’s BMI reading doesn’t say, “You have a lower BMI than 90% of females aged 15-29 in your country,” then you are dating a fattie.

If you don’t have the heart to break up with her, send her a link to the calculator as a hint/warning.

P.S. Don’t give me any bullshit about how BMI is ineffective because muscle weighs more than fat. Unless your girlfriend has veins in her arms, she’s not lean enough for that excuse to apply.

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Most guys you’ll encounter are losers. If the vast majority of men dropped dead, it would no loss to me or society writ large.

Men aren’t losers for lack of knowledge. We aren’t living in a jungle where every path is uncut. There are several proven success road maps.

Men are losers because they refuse to ask themselves the single most important question a man can ask.

It’s a question that men aren’t allowed to ask.

It’s a question that hurts feelings – which feminized Western men seem to have a lot of.

It’s a question we won’t ask because it cuts through all of the bullshit lies we tell ourselves.

It’s a question that applies to everything we do.

It’s a question we can’t hide from.

Tonight when you’re out, and a girl who is so hot that you stop in your track walks in, ask yourself: Am I being a pussy?

If you don’t approach, it’s because you’re a pussy.

When you’re at the gym and your muscles start to burn, before you quit the set, as yourself: Am I being a pussy?

If you stop the set, it’s because you’re a pussy.

When your girl is acting up and you wonder if you should make her cry, ask yourself: Am I being a pussy?

If you don’t put her in check, it’s because you’re a pussy.

When you’ve responded to dozens of job openings, ask yourself: Am I being a pussy?

 

If you don’t put on your suit, walk to businesses, and talk to hundreds of prospects, it’s because you’re a pussy.

When life isn’t going the way you want it, ask yourself: Am I being a pussy?

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Is this it? Is this why you were put on this Earth? To live like this?

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Jello shots are a delicious and effective way to get the party started. They are a pain in the ass to make, and they are also cliche. Even some bars offer jello shots.

Vodka gummies are simple to make, look cool, and are delicious.

To make vodka gummies, here’s what you need:

• vodka (I use Costco’s Kirkland Vodka, which is the same as Grey Goose; Smirnoff works, too);
• gummy bears (get an economy size, as once you make these, you will always want to have them);
• a container to put the gummy bears in (something like this is great, as the lid seals, making your gummies portable);
• a container to put the finished gummies in (3 oz. solo cups from your grocery store work, although these are better).

How many gummies and how much vodka do you need? There’s no need to screw with ratios or measuring cups. The recipe is simple, “You need enough vodka to cover the gummies.”

Here’s what you do:

• Put the gummy bears in a plastic container, mixing bowl, or zip-lock bag;
• Cover the gummies with vokda;
• Put the gummies in fridge;
• Leave the gummies in fridge for 2-5 days (the longer you leave them in there, the fattie the little bears will get);
• Mix the gummies once or twice each day.

After a few days, line your gummies up like the voka-bearing bear soldiers that they are.

If you have left overs, great. Put them in a zip-lock bag and throw them into the freezer. The vodka gummies will remain fresh for months if not years.

When you bring a girl to your place, instead of offering her a glass of wine (yawn) or a shot (too obvious that you’re trying to get her wasted), ask her, “Ever have a vodka gummy? I have some leftover from a party.”

Even if the girl is “too sophisticated” and “over my partying days” to take a shot, she will not be able to resist the gummies. (It’s candy, after all.)

Once you start making these, you will want to keep your freezer stocked indefinitely.

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When white American men complain about American women, they are actually complaining about white women.

If you white guys think you have it tough, consider what a black man has to deal with:

I used to work with a girl that had a subscription to a magazine literally titled “Black Woman”. It is a magazine for the educated black chick. Reading the editorials was like stepping into an alternate reality. For starters, the word “black” was always capitalized. So articles and letters would read like “As a strong Black woman, I think…”.

They believe that it is the duty, the fucking responsibility, of successful black men to marry a black woman. Period. There are so few financially successful black men, and so many black women, that every time a black man marries outside his race, it literally deprives the black community of a successful family, and more importantly, it denies some random Black woman the Baldwin Hills family SHE deserves. Men like Kobe or Ice-T or whomever are simply race traitors, and worse than the white men that raped and oppressed black women for hundreds of years. Yep.

These nutty broads also believe that homosexual black men are worse than black men that marry white women. It’s the outright rejection of women, and especially Black women, that make homosexual black men so lowly. It’s the reason Prop 8 passed in California, being carried by the African-American women that came out to support Obama. They voted 12:1 in support of banning gay marriage. It’s the reason so many black women are involved in LTR’s or sham marriages with gay black men, on the DL. These women believe they can rehabilitate or fix a gay black men, as long as he keeps it within the race.

Hood rats might be hood rats, but “educated” and “successful” black chicks are fucking INSANE. There’s a reason they aren’t marrying. I’d imagine two weeks of this insanity would drive any rational man away, like being chased with a flamethrower.

Don’t hate on your black brothers for dating white women. Black women have forced black men have to become “sex tourists” within their own country.

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This is not my list and there are some quibbles. Overall it’s excellent:

1. Are on meds for mental health issues
2. Claim to have been raped or molested
3. Don’t know their credit score
4. Divorced
5. Disagree with you on # of children you want
6. Smoke, even occasionally.
6. Go out and party more than once a week
7. Own small dogs that fit in purses
8. Don’t follow the news
9. Don’t vote in local and state elections
10. Admit to trying cocaine, “E” or other hard narcotics
11. Are extremely close with their fathers
12. Hate their mothers
13. Let their parents make decisions for them
14. Hang out with women that you consider losers
15. Doesn’t work out at least 3 times a week
16. Has kids by another man
17. Says things like “there are no good men left”
18. Lists “shopping” as one of her hobbies
19. Has ever been a stripper, even for a brief moment
20. Admits to dating even one drug dealer briefly
21. Doesn’t have career goals and a specific plan
22. Wears lots of make up
23. Enjoys comfort food
24. Doesn’t believe in doing yard work
25. Can’t cook
26. Won’t hold babies or talk to children, even briefly
27. Life seems like episode of “Sex in the City”
28. Watches Soap Opera, Wendy Williams, Maury or Jerry Springer
29. Uses tanning beds
30. Doesn’t floss daily
31. Started but didn’t finish school
32. Going to beauty school
33. Drives a car bought by her family
34. Has had breast augmentation
35. Likes making criticizing and judging people from a distance
36. Texts incessantly
37. Talks about the appearance of other women in your presence
38. Gossips on the phone with friends
39. Cries within first 2 months of knowing you
40. Seems to be trying to make a “good first impression” rather than being herself
41. Can’t intelligently answer this “what interests you besides money?”

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You are your own master:

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