Haters will often ask, “Why do you read so many self-help books? If the books are so effective, why do you keep reading new ones…Haven’t you already found your answer?”
There are two ways to answer the question. How you answer the question depends on the tone in which it was asked. If it was asked in sincerity, then here’s my actual answer:
Successful, interesting people have taken dozens of different approaches to life. Although I’m confident in myself, I’m not arrogant enough to ignore those who have come before me. Maybe someone has taken a path that will work for me. Life is short. If I find the right book, I could save myself many mistakes.
If it was asked by a hater, take a different approach.
Haters are not allowed in my personal life, but maybe you have a family or co-worker who asks such questions. They aren’t really asking questions, by the way. They are being passive-aggressive cunts.
Instead of calling you out by saying, “You’re wasting your time reading dumb books, bro,” they give themselves cover, “I was just asking you a question!”
Ask the person, “What did you have for lunch last Tuesday?”
The person will say, “I have no idea what you are talking about? How could I remember what I ate?”
Even though you ate something today, you’ll need to eat something tomorrow. The body needs nourishment. The mind also needs continual nourishment.
You should then start asking your questions. “If you think these books are cheesy perhaps you can give me a recommendation? What are the last five books you have read? Maybe I’ll pick one out of your pile.”
That question will shut down haters.
Here is what you have to understand about haters: They have nothing going on in their lives. Really. Haters aren’t getting laid. They aren’t moving forward in life.
It would be wrong to call them failures, as failures try. Failures are actually legit people, so long as they keep getting back up. As supreme alpha male George S. Patton said, “Success is how high you bounce when you hit the bottom.”
Haters aren’t doing anything other than sitting around in a knitting circle, judging everyone. Haters are indistinguishable from gossiping old women.
If the haters were right about those books, then why do so many successful people recommend them? Are these successful people delusional, unlike the enlightened haters?
Haters aren’t reading anything. Ignore the haters. Do not interact with haters. If a friend asks you a cunty, passive-aggressive question, end the friendship before they lower your average.
Build a legit crew of guys who are too building themselves up to have time to tear you down.
Also, if your family sucks, cut them off.
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