Fifty Shades of Grey Sex: Asserting Ownership

A real man is a violent one, and masculinity is nothing if not restrained aggression. Philosophers praise manly reason because it evidences self-control – that is, control of our own violent natures. To be a man is to be five seconds away from killing someone.

There are tens of millions of good – which is to say, neutered – guys in America, and yet women consistently end up with dominant, strong, violent men.

The question isn’t whether women want to be dominated. The question is whether you are man enough to dominate them.

During sex, most men don’t talk. Distracted by feelings of inadequacy, they feel like a new guy at the company: “I’d better not say anything that might fuck this up.”

And so the first step towards establishing dominance in your relationship is to talk during sex.

As most men have been conditioned to hide in the corner, lest they be put on “attention deficit” or other “behavioral drugs,” talking feels unnatural during sex.

The easiest way to assert your dominance is to stop asking her what she wants, and start telling her what to do. Issuing commands is a good way to warm her up.

You should be changing positions regularly during sex, as that will delay your orgasm. Before changing her position, tell her what to do next.

First-time sex generally begins missionary style.

Get up. Get on your knees. Stop. Put your head down. No. Lift your ass up. Good.

Right away you are telling her what to do, criticizing her, and finally praising her. More subtly, you are creating the tone. She exists for your sexual pleasure. She exists to please you.

Most women are extremely turned up when a man tells them what to do. In fact, only once has a woman said, “No, I’m not going to change positions.”

I stopped, rolled off. “Oh, shit. So you’re into boring sex, huh?” She immediately felt insecure and then did what she was told.

Once you’ve gotten her used to following commands, you need to start using ownership language. Ownership language is a set of affirmations that you first issue, and then she affirms.

The strength of ownership language will vary based on the situation and the girl. Most of the time it’s best to start somewhat mild. A simple, “You like that, don’t you?” will do.

From there you progress to, “Tell me how much you like it/my dick.” Not every girl is used to this treatment, and sometimes they won’t answer back.

If she is quiet, pound a bit longer before saying, “Tell me how much you like my dick.” If you are forceful, she will begin repeating your affirmations.

Having her repeat your affirmations is crucial. Again, this is why you start tamely. Far more important than any given affirmation is that she get into the pattern of repeating your affirmations.

Every good salesperson will tell you that you must get the clients saying yes to something, anything, it doesn’t matter what. Just get a few yeses.

Likewise, a trial lawyer cross-examining a witness will start with very banal leading questions. The answers don’t matter. The goal is to establish control:

You live in 4th street, isn’t that true? You live in a one-bedroom apartment, isn’t that right? You are 26 years old, yes?

I cannot overemphasize this point enough. You must get her into the pattern of repeating your affirmations. Start small. A, “This is good, right,” she affirms is superior to a, “Tell me you’re a whore,” which might freak her out at first.

Once she has begun repeating your affirmations, you can lead her wherever you want to go. As with any human interaction, it’s best to start slowly.

Also use pronouns in your ownership language. Say, ”You’re my whore.” I always use my and never a. When you call a girl my whore, she feels good about herself. She feels, as all women desire to feel, wanted and objectified by a man. When you call her a whore, she feels fungible and lacks a sense of belonging.

Instead of saying, “You enjoy fucking, don’t you, you little slut,” you should say, “You enjoy fucking me, don’t you?”

Using ownership language during sex will improve your sex live and also put your girl on the path to becoming your pet. It’s a necessary first step to owning her body, mind, and soul.

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