Men have become so obsessed with alpha and beta that they’ve forgotten something important: Alpha is a means to an end, not an end in itself.

Generally a man will have the most happiness if he’s the alpha in a situation. As sexless nerds masquerading on the Internet as players say, “An alpha male has greater access to resources, which is positively correlated with reproductive success.”

In other words, even the most die hard defender of the alpha-beta dichotomy recognizes that being alpha only matters because being alpha generally leads to more sex, money, and positive life experiences.

Although it’s useful to wonder if something is alpha or beta, it’s even more useful to ask: Does it fucking matter?

I know some men who claim, “If mom is happy, everyone is happy.” If making sure your girl is happy really does lead to your own happiness or fulfillment, who cares if rubbing her toes and making 10 p.m. ice cream runs is alpha or beta? Who cares if working yourself to death so she can spend your money in stupid shit is alpha or beta?

I will be the first guy to point out that “making momma happy” very often leads to misery. But if your relationship works, does it matter if you’re the beta? It sure wouldn’t matter to me.

Being an alpha is hard work. Being in a relationship requires a man to constantly discipline his woman. The single man has to keep his game tight. Game is like boxing. Take a few weeks off, and you’re timing is gone

To survive in the U.S., a man needs to be alpha. Again, though, alpha is still a means to an end, and not the end in itself.

If you enjoyed being in the Army, does it matter that you’re merely beta males working on behalf of the Illuminati? During my service I was able to travel, get paid for going to college (and the GI Bill was tax free), and my tuition was fully paid for. I even had fun.

It doesn’t matter even a little that guys who have necks thinner than my biceps opine that joining the Army is beta. What does matter is that my experience in the military was enjoyable – to me.

Some day we’re all going to be old men, sitting on a rocking chair or hospital bed. Even if we’re surrounded by family, we’ll spend more of our dying days inside our own heads.

When you’re reflecting on life, you won’t be asking whether you were alpha or beta. You will be remembering and reliving positive life experiences.

Stop wondering if something you’re doing is alpha or beta. Instead focus on whether you’re actually enjoying yourself.

If you’re focused on always being alpha or beta, you’re probably too busy being an uptight, insecure keyboard warrior to enjoy yourself.

If you are creating memories that will nourish your old soul, you’ll living life as it should be lived.

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Friends sometimes bust my balls about having a game blog, not because I don’t pull, but because, “You don’t run game!”

In a sense, my friends are right. I don’t stack negs on an HB while DHV’ing until kino escalating. Instead, I focus on finding the right niche, or what you cool kids call a scene.

If I don’t enjoy an environment, I don’t stick around. Pure “gamers” would say that I avoid situations that would lead to incongruency. I say that life is short and being places I don’t want to be in order to get laid isn’t generally worth it.

Game is a hobby, not a job, and when you find the right scene, game is a fun and rewarding hobby.

Thus, a lot of my game tips focus on finding your niche. If you find your scene, you’ll pull more women than you otherwise would.

The above mindset let me to interview DJ Kalin Tyler.

I discovered Kalin’s music on a message both we congregate at. As a guy who has partied in some amazing clubs and has friends who are successful enough at DJ’ing to earn a living doing it, I have at least somewhat of an ear for it.

I knew the kid had talent.

And when he posted an epic set of rave girl photos, I knew we had to interview him.

Although, in Kalin’s words, “House music is about love, not sex,” raves and parties like Ultra (which attracted 400,000 party goers) are a great scene for a guy who is into house music.

In fact, if you love house music but have weak game, you will likely meet more attractive woman than usual.

“I was at a show inDallas,” Kalin notes, “when I saw a guy who must’ve weighed 400 or 500 pounds. He was deep into the music and just dancing. Suddenly a girl who you’d consider way to of his league started dancing with him. They left together.”

“House music is like that.”

Kalin wasn’t surprised: “Girls who go to raves have trouble meeting people who enjoy the music. Most of their friends don’t listen to it. Most of their co-workers don’t like it. No one understands the scene. These girls are looking for a connection.”

A lot of rave girls – maybe even most, according to Kalin – don’t believe in monogamy and don’t want a relationship.

I asked Kalin what advise he’s give a guy who wanted to get into the rave scene.

Going to a rave is not a “fake it ‘til you make it” situation, as you need to be really outgoing to enjoy yourself.

Plus, the best parties are the underground, after-hours parties. These events are invite-only. To score an invite, you need to make friends.

“Talk to everyone. You never know who is promoting an event. If you’re outgoing and make a connection, you’ll be good with everyone in the scene.”

If you like Kalin’s music, follow him on Twitter:

https://twitter.com/#!/KalinTyler

DJs get bookings based on the number of downloads and plays their music gets. So liberally play Kalin’s stuff at Sound Cloud:

http://soundcloud.com/kalintyler

Kalin enjoys the interactive nature of the comments, so I’m sure he’d be happy to answer any questions you might have about the rave scene.

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Is leaving the comfort of home for a place where you will be friendless and tormented beta? Do the Real Alpha Males remain home with mommy and daddy (or, given single parenthood rates, just mommy dearest), playing video games and eating Doritos?

Is spending a Summer in an environment so hot and humid that people pass out from heat stroke, and need intravenous fluids in order to survive beta? Do the Real Alpha Males drink Gatorade after a grueling WOW sessions?

Is learning how to keep your mouth shut, not smirk or show any emotion when being screamed at beta? Or do the Real Alpha Males complain to moderators on Internet message boards that people are “bullying” them.

Is throwing hand grenades and shooting M60 machine guns beta? Are the Real Alpha Males faggots who have never even owned a gun (while nonetheless proclaiming on the Internet that they are prepared for the coming coming race war)?

Is standing in a concrete room full of tear gas and not being a little fucking pussy and crying beta? Are you the Real Alpha Males afraid of smoking cigarettes?

Is sleeping in your boots because taking them off would mean they would literally not fit back on (as the boot is acting as a makeshift split on a severely sprained ankle) beta? Do we find the Real Alpha Males at the New Balance store, buying specialty footwear to address their overpronation problem?

Is hiking 14 miles with a full combat load beta when you can hear your hip click with every step? Are the Real Alpha Males at REI, buying Cliff Bars and Vibram Five Finger Shoes?

Is it beta to locate an index-card sized target at 2 a.m. when you have nothing but a map, compass, and pace counter beta? Are the Real Alpha Males out at 2 a.m., using credit cards and bravado, trying to put their porn-induced impotent dicks into fat American pigs?

Is learning how to deal with the death of close friends beta? Are the Real Alpha Males those who have never known hardship, struggle, or loss?

Is being in the Army beta? I don’t know, but I do know that you kids are in the wrong neighborhood if you think banging 6s and circle jerking each other online gives you any insight into what it means to be a man.

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USAREC Pam 601-25 is an Army document read by solders preparing for the arduous 21 say Special Forces Selection process. Although the pamplet is only theoretically interesting to us non-solders, one section has general applicability to a man’s life.

Section 2-2, “Most common mistakes in the SFAS Course,” reads almost like a, “How to Not Be a Pussy/Loser” article.

The advice has a similar theme: Always give your best effort and never give up. Unless you are hopeless, you will generally succeed if you avoid these pitfalls.

2-2. Most common mistakes in the SFAS Course

d. Showing uncontrollable fear in the water during the 50-meter swim assessment.
e. Listening and/or participating in the dissemination of inaccurate information of what to expect during SFAS. [Unless someone has verifiable credentials or objective manifestations of success, he is a loser. So why listen to him?]
g. Showing inconsistency during rucksack marches and runs.
h. Giving up on the obstacle course.
i. Not being able to do at least six pull-ups from a dead hang. This may show a lack of upper body strength.
j. Giving up on yourself. Don’t quit, let the assessors assess you. [How often do guys not approach a girl, thinking she'll reject him?]
k. Negative thoughts. Don’t doubt yourself, believe in yourself, don’t evaluate yourself out of the SFAS Course.
l. Not taking proper care of your feet.
m. Falling asleep when you are not supposed to.
o. Not giving 100 percent. The assessors are trained to identify soldiers that are not pulling their weight.
p. Whining and complaining; nobody likes it and it doesn’t help.
q. Arguing with the cadre. It will not be tolerated and you will be terminated.
r. Failure to follow instructions. Pay attention to detail.
s. Losing your temper. Maintaining your bearing is essential to success.
t. Not being flexible. Anything and everything may go wrong, deal with it.
u. Using shortcuts or cheating. Don’t compromise your integrity, you will be dropped from the SFAS Course for integrity violations.
v. Always the first one to sit or lay down on a break.
w. Always the last one to get up when the break is over.

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A real man is a violent one, and masculinity is nothing if not restrained aggression. Philosophers praise manly reason because it evidences self-control – that is, control of our own violent natures. To be a man is to be five seconds away from killing someone.

There are tens of millions of good – which is to say, neutered – guys in America, and yet women consistently end up with dominant, strong, violent men.

The question isn’t whether women want to be dominated. The question is whether you are man enough to dominate them.

During sex, most men don’t talk. Distracted by feelings of inadequacy, they feel like a new guy at the company: “I’d better not say anything that might fuck this up.”

And so the first step towards establishing dominance in your relationship is to talk during sex.

As most men have been conditioned to hide in the corner, lest they be put on “attention deficit” or other “behavioral drugs,” talking feels unnatural during sex.

The easiest way to assert your dominance is to stop asking her what she wants, and start telling her what to do. Issuing commands is a good way to warm her up.

You should be changing positions regularly during sex, as that will delay your orgasm. Before changing her position, tell her what to do next.

First-time sex generally begins missionary style.

Get up. Get on your knees. Stop. Put your head down. No. Lift your ass up. Good.

Right away you are telling her what to do, criticizing her, and finally praising her. More subtly, you are creating the tone. She exists for your sexual pleasure. She exists to please you.

Most women are extremely turned up when a man tells them what to do. In fact, only once has a woman said, “No, I’m not going to change positions.”

I stopped, rolled off. “Oh, shit. So you’re into boring sex, huh?” She immediately felt insecure and then did what she was told.

Once you’ve gotten her used to following commands, you need to start using ownership language. Ownership language is a set of affirmations that you first issue, and then she affirms.

The strength of ownership language will vary based on the situation and the girl. Most of the time it’s best to start somewhat mild. A simple, “You like that, don’t you?” will do.

From there you progress to, “Tell me how much you like it/my dick.” Not every girl is used to this treatment, and sometimes they won’t answer back.

If she is quiet, pound a bit longer before saying, “Tell me how much you like my dick.” If you are forceful, she will begin repeating your affirmations.

Having her repeat your affirmations is crucial. Again, this is why you start tamely. Far more important than any given affirmation is that she get into the pattern of repeating your affirmations.

Every good salesperson will tell you that you must get the clients saying yes to something, anything, it doesn’t matter what. Just get a few yeses.

Likewise, a trial lawyer cross-examining a witness will start with very banal leading questions. The answers don’t matter. The goal is to establish control:

You live in 4th street, isn’t that true? You live in a one-bedroom apartment, isn’t that right? You are 26 years old, yes?

I cannot overemphasize this point enough. You must get her into the pattern of repeating your affirmations. Start small. A, “This is good, right,” she affirms is superior to a, “Tell me you’re a whore,” which might freak her out at first.

Once she has begun repeating your affirmations, you can lead her wherever you want to go. As with any human interaction, it’s best to start slowly.

Also use pronouns in your ownership language. Say, ”You’re my whore.” I always use my and never a. When you call a girl my whore, she feels good about herself. She feels, as all women desire to feel, wanted and objectified by a man. When you call her a whore, she feels fungible and lacks a sense of belonging.

Instead of saying, “You enjoy fucking, don’t you, you little slut,” you should say, “You enjoy fucking me, don’t you?”

Using ownership language during sex will improve your sex live and also put your girl on the path to becoming your pet. It’s a necessary first step to owning her body, mind, and soul.

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My post, “How to Choke a Woman” was a tame introduction into S&M. Choking is a starting point. It’s rookie stuff.

Women want more than to be just be choked. They want their hair pulled. They want you to spit on their face so they can rub it in. They want to be tied up. They want to be told they are miserable, worthless whores. They want to pass out during sex. They want to be sore. They want bruises and bite marks. They want to be filled with huge loads of cum. They want to be fucked until their mascara is running over their faces. They want you to make them watch themselves in a mirror while you tell them, “Look at that whore getting fucked! That is what a whore looks like.” They want to be raped.

A prosecutor would use the above paragraph against me in a court of law, and many of you are probably thinking, “This guy is crazy.” The truth of women has been revealed through their own buying habits. (You nerds call this revealed preferences.)

Fifty Shakes of Grey is an unreadable book available at bookstores nationwide. On my last flight, nearly every women had a copy. Nearly all of my hot female acquaintances are reading it.

Fifty Shades of Grey is a New York Times #1 bestselling erotic fiction paperback and e-book by E. L. James. Set largely in Seattle, it is the first installment in a trilogy that traces the deepening relationship between college graduate Anastasia Steele and a young business magnate, Christian Grey. It is notable for its explicitly erotic scenes featuring elements of BDSM.

I have been having Fifty Shades of Grey Sex for a long time.

Women are going crazy over Fifty Shades for two socially unspeakable reasons reasons – which ultimately are two horns on the same devil.

First, it’s no secret that women want a dominant man. We rarely make that statement with such candor, instead saying that women “want a man who knows what he wants,” or that a man “shouldn’t be afraid to take what he wants.” Ultimately, though, women want dominated.

Second, women want to be infantilized. How many women want to make decisions? When is the last time a strong, independent woman said, “I want to try out this new bar. Meet me there at 8.”

Women make terrible leaders because of an inherent need to be controlled. They ask questions and seek suggestions. They prattle on and never take action.

Much relationship misery results from failing to understand that a woman, no matter her age, is no different from a child. Although a father will ask for his child’s input, and although a father will often let the child have her way, a father still makes the decision.

And so you can see why Fifty Shades is so successful. In Fifty Shades, a dominant man completely controls every aspect of a woman’s life. (A true dom-sub relationship, goes well beyond sex. Watch Secretary.)

Once you appreciate that women want to be dominated, you can learn how to do it. In a future serious of posts, I’ll introduce you to the scene.

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In 1986 I thought this was the hottest woman alive. I would have gladly married her. Thankfully I’ve learned a thing or two about female aging:

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Now what?

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A topic of tiresome and endless debate exists over a simple question: What body do most women find most desirable?

It’s a stupid debate because there is no right answer. There are six right answers. If this chart were measured, from top-left to lower-right, the correct answers would be: 2, 3, 4, 5, 7, and 10.

Which is the holy grail of bodies? Jesus Christ, do you even have a nice body as it is? Because unless you have a good body and are looking to take it to the next level, arguing over this bullshit just makes you a keyboard warrior.

Lift some weights, don’t be so fat that you float in a swimming pool, don’t be so skinny the wind will blow you over, and trust me: Women will be more than OK with your body.

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