There are a lot of ways to spot whether a person is lying about his ability to meet women, but there is one major tell that seems prominent on many game blogs.

They tell you to never pay for dates.

Most men who date a lot enjoy the company of feminine women. Feminine women generally all have one thing in common – they are broke.

First, how much do you think a 23-year-old girl is going to make? It’s a recession, so she may not even have a job. Chances are she is having her parents help her out. Young girls are broke.

Second, girls with feminine jobs are broke. Look at this list of undesirable women. I can date all of the lawyers, doctors, MBA’s, and rich cougars I want. I don’t, because they are not feminine.

How much, after all, do you think an au pair makes? Well, I will tell you. In my market, it’s $225 a week. A teacher who is just starting off may earn $32,000 or so, and a girl in advertising may make barely earn double the minimum wage.

After rent and other expenses, how much money do you think these women have? How is a girl going to look fly for you, having her nails done, getting waxed, and wearing heels and having cute underwear and outfits if you are not paying for dates?

Granted, I understand the rationale behind not paying for dates. I won’t buy a girl dinner until we’ve had sex, and I won’t buy a girl a drink outright. She needs to earn it by providing me 15-20 minutes of good company beforehand.

Yet after I have had sex with a woman (whom I want to have sex with again), I expect to pay. Why?

Because I actually date younger girls who work in feminine professions. They sure as fuck don’t have any money, and unless you’re going to play xBox 360 together, you gotta do something outside of your studio apartment. Plus, my hedonism extends to coffee and grilling steaks. How is a girl going to keep up with my coffee budget?

Oh, I know. Your favorite PUA is so gangster he grills a steak and doesn’t feed his girl, and orders a coffee without getting her anything. You don’t believe that shit, do you?

Now there are fat single moms who will go into credit card debt to “keep her man,” but those are not the type of women I date. Girls who young and cute will want to do something with her man, and she’s not going to have the money to pay.

Be very wary of someone who claims to date younger women yet who is also telling you never to pay for dates. Either he is lying about dating younger women, or he wants to seem cool, and thus won’t admit he’s paying for dates.

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In SERE school, Army officers and special forces soldiers are sent behind enemy lines with their choice of either a packet of Charms candy, or a canteen full of water. The challenge is simple but impossibly difficult: Survive without being captured.

SERE school exists because while the United States military has the greatest equipment in the world, the equipment is only as good as its operators.

Scarface was almost right when he said, “All I have in this world is my word and my balls.” Add wit to Scarface’s list, and you have a man ready for any challenge.

Players can have a lot of fun with a form of SERE school. As with Army SERE school, the rules are simple:

Go out alone with nothing but an ID, and get laid.

No wallet. No credit cards for emergencies. No cash. No public transportation pass or iPhone.

Leave the house with an ID. Then pull an attractive chick at a bar.

In the abstract, that doesn’t sound too difficult. Yet imagine you’re in a bar with no money. Well, first of all, how are you going to get to the bar? Are you going to walk, hitch a ride, hop on MUNI without a ticket? Remember, you cannot bring any money. No credit card. All you may bring is a photo ID.

What do you drink in the bar? Do you order water from the bartender, and then leave no tip? Do you steal a drink? Do you get women to buy you drinks?

Do you create a cover story? Do you tell the truth? How are you going to get home? Is the girl going to drive you? How do you tell the girl you don’t have any money to pay for a cab?

I’ve done this challenge many times, and it’s one of my old favorites – as it’s a true test of your game. If you can get laid without a dollar in your pocket, then your game is tight.

If some of you actually try it and post a comment, I’ll post some of my tips and tactics, as well as a few interesting stories.

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I do not ask women out on dates. I tell them to meet me. I am aggressive physically, though not in the way some guys are.

Most guys try making out with a girl right away, or they just start grabbing a girl’s ass. When I meet a girl, I put my arms around her waist, pulling her into me. I don’t go for the make out. I simply lay hands on her in a dominant and possessive way.

Most women love this, although some will push back with words, “Awfully grabby there, aren’t you?” My response is a silent, “Meh.” don’t use words to pass her shit test, as in my mind, I have done nothing that requires explanation. If she pulls away, I don’t stop her. I just stop talking to her. A girl once freaked out after I stopped talking to her because she pulled away. She didn’t understand that I simply have no interest in women who are such control freaks that they can’t stand having a strong man hold them close.

Agro game won’t work for every guy. It works for me is due to my look and demeanor. No one accuses me of smiling too often, of being too chipper, or of looking soft. Thus, if a woman is talking to me, she generally wants to be dominated. It’s a self-selection issue.

Let me give an example. Here is an actual text message exchange, with commentary:

Her: How’s it going
Me: At a friend’s b-day dinner. Deciding where you’re going to meet me for drinks…

Note the presumptuousness. I assume she is going to see me. I don’t ask her about her plans for the night, as her plans are irrelevant to my will.

Note that I did not use “we,” as that’s cooperative and therefore beta. I am deciding where she is going to meet me. The war of words is won with subtlety.

I like your forwardness. Unfortunately I have planes for tonight.
Change ‘em.

How many times have you been flaked on? Well, you are being flaked on because a woman found something better to do. I am that something better she found.

Can’t…formal event. But again, I like your forwardness.
Ditch your date when it’s over.

That is where I won.  My response had a lot of subtext, communicating, “I know you have a date. I don’t care. I am not jealous or threatened. Ditch the guy.” Which she did.

Agro text game won’t work for every guy, and it turns off a lot of women. I like agro game precisely because it turns off the women whom I won’t like.

If a girl only wants to have missionary position sex – or considers a few slaps on the ass during doggy style kinky – then it’s just not going to work out. I’d rather get those women out of my life before finding out she is boring in bed.

It’s better to blow a woman out early through aggressive text messaging than to spend several hours with a lame woman.

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Eric Barker has reviewed the research, concluding that men should:

• Wear red.
• Buy a dog.
• Touch her when you ask for her number.
• Read Byron.
• Be seen surrounded by women.

Hard to argue with any of those items, and I’ve long said the best wing man in the world is a faithful dog. “Dog game” is unstoppable, and is the subject of a forthcoming post.

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Upon this a question arises: whether it be better to be loved than feared or feared than loved? It may be answered that one should wish to be both, but, because it is difficult to unite them in one person, is much safer to be feared than loved, when, of the two, either must be dispensed with.

Some people wonder whether money is better than game, and the answer is that a man needs both. If one must be chosen, then game is better than money. However, a night out illustrates why the issue is more complicated than most guys will admit.

We entered the night club with a bodyguard. All eyes were on us, as only celebrities and VIP’s have bodyguards. “Who are those guys,” their eyes said. The host skipped us past the long line to the table. We had security from the club as well as our own bodyguard. The only people who would get into our section had to be invited.

One friend – because he’s a baller like that – was picking up the tab. Every guy at the table knew this. Every guy at the table also knew they were free to bring over any bottle skanks they saw. In other words, even though my boy was covering costs, every guy had money.

Think of it like this. When you go out, what’s money good for? Money signals social status. You can wear nice clothes, a good watch, and get bottle service. Girls are attracted to status. Thus, there’s not a guy at the table who wasn’t convey to women that he had money. Every guy basically had the same amount of what money can buy.

Yet you know what guys from our table got laid? It was the same guys that if you had stolen our wallets (leaving us only an ID needed to get into the club), we would have gotten laid. The table was fun and comfortable, but it wasn’t anything we needed.

The guys without game didn’t get laid, although two guys of them should have. They each had a bottle skank. When one skank stood up in front of where I was seated, I rubbed my hand up her thigh. She didn’t even bother looking down at me, let alone flinch. This was a purebred slut read for some D’.

My companions wouldn’t listen. I told them, separately and together, “These girls are sluts. Tell them you’re taking them to your rooms. Now.” They assured me, “We got it covered,” and thought because they were making out, they were going to get the bang.

Instead of isolating the miserable whores, they lounged around like they had been dating for several months. They made out and had their arms around the whores. At closing time, the girls told my friends to “definitely call us,” and that was that.

Although there was a game failure, the money comes into play because these girls were out of my companions’ leagues. If these guys entered the club with no money, they wouldn’t have even had a chance at pulling these skanks. Even with game, they’d have had a helluva a time.

Game is better than money, but money will open a lot of doors. Many girls are pure sluts who will bang any guy they think is rich. It’s not enough to be seen as rich. A guy must have enough game to recognize when to isolate a girl. If the two guys had done what I had told them to do, they would have gotten the bangs.

So if you have to choose, choose game. Yet a man shouldn’t limit his mindset, or treat game and money as a either-or proposition.

As a man, your girlfriend should love and fear you. And as a man, you should have both money and game.

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My post on muscles caused a common myth that ugly guys have perpetuated for years, namely, “Women are not visual creatures,” or at least they aren’t as visual of creatures as men are. I have two responses to that.

First, if that were true, where are the bodies? That is: Where are all of these hot women who are dating ugly guys?

Generally when you see a guy and a girl, they are about equally attractive. When you see an unattractive man with a beautiful woman, it’s almost always because the ugly guy is super rich or famous. He has something to super compensate for his lack of looks. Most of the time, though, couples are evenly matched looks wise.

If women aren’t visual creatures, why are they choosing to be with men who are attractive – indeed, men who are just as attractive as they are? The reality completely contradicts the PUA myth.

Second, I am not even the greatest looking guy in the world, but girls I date are always taking my picture and posting it on Facebook – to show their friends they are with an attractive man. If women weren’t visual, wouldn’t that be a completely pointless gesture? Why would she post pictures of her man if women weren’t visual creatures?

Women are driven by the visual effect a man creates. Yes, if you wear Old Navy jeans and dumpy t-shirts and have no body, you may not believe this. Yet you are being ignored precisely because you do not create an impressive visual image.

Stop repeating myths at this site. If you do not know that women are visual creatures, we are just on different wavelengths. If it makes you feel better to think I am one of the lost souls who just needs to re-read Mystery, that’s cool. Just stop annoying me with stupid comments.

There are lots of places on the ‘Net where guys will tell you that you don’t need to spend years in the gym getting in shape, and that it doesn’t matter if you eat crappy food all day – because your PUA-stamped personality trumps muscle. This is not one of those sites, as my approach to game is based on observation and empiricism. I observe what works, and a man who does not look good simply will never reach the highest levels of the game.

If I ever decide to sell products, sure, I’ll market magic and the easy way out. “BUY MY COURSE AND AFTER ONE WEEKEND, YOU’LL BE A MASTER PUA.” Until then, I’d rather have intelligent conversations with guys who actually understand the game – or are willing to learn from those who do.

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Thanks for the auto-post feature, I will pondering this from from a pool party:

My liking for game is a direct result of my skepticism. I have long been a member of the Skeptics Society, and I’m a fan of James Randi’s work. Books on critical thinking and cognitive bias count has leisure reading.

My skepticism has helped me realize two things: Game works. Mmuch of what passes for game is bullshit. There are many game-related myths.

We often hear little guys, for example, claim that women don’t like muscles. Women are not visual creatures. No, instead they wanted charmed. Sometimes even women claim, “Muscles are gross. I don’t like muscles.”

My direct experience contradicts that dogma of game. Guys write posts about gaming what they call “hired help,” and most guys fantasize about banging strippers. Banging a girl for free that other men pay for is sort of the holy grail of game.

Many of my guy friends are fitness competitors and models. I can tell you that when we go into the Spearmint Rhino, they are outright propositioned for free, no-strings-attached sex. Although not in fitness model territory, my association with these guys has brought me the same offers.

When you see muscle guys getting propositioned, and when you yourself had sex with a quality girl at a pool party after doing nothing more than chilling with your hot friends, you realize how fraudulent most game advice is.

I’m at a pool right now. You know what I don’t see? I don’t see any “muscle guys” with fat women. I don’t see any muscle guys with ugly women. (Some of the women may be a bit lean for athletic for my tastes; but the women are objectively attractive.)

I also don’t see any skinny guys hooking up with hot chicks. I see a lot of skinny guys spending $3,000-$5,000 on bottle service, but those girls will only get drunk off their vodka, and fuck the muscle guys for free.

Of course, you need not trust my observations. Las Vegas posts huge photo galleries. Check out Spy on Vegas. Show me the muscle guys with fat or ugly women. (And for every guy you show me with one, I’ll show you nine guys with hotties.)

There aren’t a lot of game-related rules that are universal. One thing is certain: Anyone telling you that muscles do not improve game are frauds.

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A friend wrote in, saying my Day Bang review read like a sales pitch. That’d be odd, since there’s nothing for me to sell. What he really meant was: Why not go into specifics?

When someone earns his living writing books, you don’t want to put his information on the Internet for free. You are stealing another man’s dinner. You are also harming yourself.

If I read a book that’s unavailable online, and share the tips, then everyone can post those same tips online. Suddenly a useful tactic becomes played out. My best material is never posted online, but instead is reserved for my real life friends and business associates.

I have, however, used two small tricks from Day Bang already, and can reveal them without causing the author any harm. Plus, the author of Day Bang is a legit guy, so maybe after using this stuff, you’ll realize why you need to buy his book.

On Friday night, I was at a hotel bar when I approached three girls. I opened with my standard neg:

Where are you visiting from?
Girl 1: We live around here.
Girl 2: But why’d you ask that?
Me: You look German. Are you German?
Girl 2: No, I’m Czech. Blah, blah, blah, twin sister, blah, blah.

Now the chick is talking about herself, telling me she’s Jewish, and telling me I look Jewish. Women really love talking about their ancestry – at least if they have any interest in getting to know you.

The “Are you German?” line is straight from Day Bang. The line works because 60% (according to Roosh) of women have Germanic ancestry. Even where – as in the case of the girl above – the girl isn’t German, she’ll go on about her ancestry if she wants to keep the conversation going.

Another tactic from Day Bang that works in intimate venues is “the Ramble.” I’ve used the Ramble in other contexts, but never when meeting women. It never even occurred to me to use this when meeting women. What’s the Ramble?

In situations where you must develop rapport (client meetings), you’re often dealing with a cold fish. A cold fish may want to talk, but some people take longer than others to open up. A Ramble also helps relax a situation. A Ramble is a longer-than-usual conversation about a mundane detail. A Ramble is an invitation to the other person that says, “Hey, you can talk to me.”

Once I met a very powerful person. After the meeting, we shook hands. Then an awkward moment almost occurred.

I can only write well with a certain type of pen. This pen has a tendency to explode/leak when taken on airplanes. I had just returned from a trip, and the pen must have been leaking, as the guy looked down at his hands, and saw a blue stain on them.

Do you journal, he asked me
No.
I do, and if I were you keeping a journal, this is the exact type of thing I’d journal.

The guy was sort of rambling, and yet it wasn’t pointless chatter. What was really going on in that dialogue? He was telling me that the rookie move of getting ink on his hands was no big deal. He was communicating that he journals. He was hinting that I should consider journaling. He was inviting me to ask about his journaling.

When you meet a woman during the day (or in a quiet venue), the Ramble is a great opener. Imagine I go into a coffee shop where a woman has a pen next to her. What might I say? I’d ramble about the story, above:

That’s a nice pen. It reminds me of the time I had just returned from a conference in New York. I had an important job interview that went very well. I had taken some notes, and had been so focused on the interview, that I didn’t realize my pen must have exploded from the altitude. After we shook hands, his hand was stained with blue ink. I was mortified.

The girl has a lot to work with. What happened next? Was the guy pissed? Why was I in New York? What was the job interview for? Do I still know the guy?

If she has any interest at all in talking to me, she’s going to ask some of those questions. If she doesn’t have any interest in me, she’ll turn towards her computer.

The Ramble is thus a highly effective way of opening a woman while also gauging her interest in you. The Ramble also communicating positive information about me (I’m the kind of guy who travels to New York for conferences) without being too try-hard.

In fact, the Ramble is worth the cost of the book alone.

I’m not going to give away anymore of the Day Bang’s trade secrets. When the book is released, it is only going to cost $15 or so. If you won’t spend $15 on a book, you are no friend of mine – as I spend ten times that amount every month on books and other self-development materials, and enjoy my morning commute – as it disciplines me to listen to audiobooks.

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Day Bang will increase your chances of meeting a quality girl (or bang many girls) by at least 100%. Consider the possibilities.

Imagine you’re at a coffee shop when you hear the door open. You see a cute girl walk in. You see her stop in line behind you. You know from experience that lattes take a while to brew, and that the girl will order a latte. You have 3-5 solid minutes to pick this girl up. What will you do?

Like most guys, your answer is a sad one – nothing. “She already has a boyfriend,” you’ll say to rationalize your cowardice. Deep down, you’ll feel defeated. Your shoulders will slump, as you cannot lie to your unconscious mind. Lie all you want. Your unconscious mind knows the truth.

Yet there are reasons you failed to close – good reasons, even. You felt anxious. You wanted to talk to her, but were ashamed that others may see you. You didn’t have the words to say.

In Day Bang, Roosh addresses all of these problems. He gives you a mental paradigm that conquers approach anxiety. He gives you solid stock material to say. You won’t need to creatively come up with a clever line. Everything you need to say to open the pretty girl in line behind you is already programmed in your head.

Day Bang also gets deep into the logistics of meeting women. Did you know that a coffee shop and subway car each offer seats that women pass by most frequently? Day Bang maps these out for you, ensuring you’ll have the best seat in the house.

Incidentally, many of Day Bang’s tactics – such as the Ramble – work well at night. Although ostensibly a book on day game, Day Bang will improve your club game, too.

My only regret about Day Bang is that I can’t link to a page where you can purchase it. Day Bang won’t be released until September 19.

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Daytime has always been my favorite time to meet women.

First, day game overlaps with my lifestyle. I generally live a clean, austere, healthy lifestyle. I enjoy being outside. I take long walks during the day, and a good friend and I take a very “gay” (not that there’s anything wrong with that!) man-date-style, 5-mile walk each Sunday. I’ve spent hundreds of hours at dog parks and dog beaches. Show me a park with a shady tree for me to read a book under, where I can let my dog run off leash without be hassled, and you’ve shown my heave.

Second, women can’t lie. How many times have you banged a “HB8,” only to wake up to a wrinkly, sun-damaged white girl who left make-up all over your pillow case? Women spend several hours getting read to go to the club. They create an illusion of attractiveness. They are a Venus fly trap.

During the day, women must tell the truth. The harsh light will reveal the wrinkles on their foreheads. They aren’t wearing girdles. You get to honestly evaluate a woman’s attractiveness.

Girls out during the day are generally “cleaner.” Club skanks are not out during the day. Hung over and with inflamed herpes sores, they hide from the sun. When you meet a chick during the day, you reduce your STD risk.

Third (and this list could go to 100), unless you’re an alcoholic or don’t have a career, you’ll be able to meet more women during the day. I go out once or twice a week. I have a job, and even if I didn’t: Going out all the time is bad for your brain. Party girl is synonymous with stupid for good reason. You really should stay in and read.

Yet today I’ll stop by a coffee shop. I may even lounge, work, or read for a while. I’ll almost certainly be at a gym. I’ll also make a stop at Trader Joe’s for some fresh produce.

If I limit myself to meeting women at night, I have one or two chances to meet women each week. If I open my mind to meeting women during the game, I have several chances to meet women each day.

The best time to meet a quality girl is during the day. Yet most men never pick up women during the day. List the name of the last five girls you’ve banged. Did you meet any of those women during the day?

By not running day game, you are missing out on hundreds of women. In Day Bang, Roosh shows you how to meet these women. How? Check back in tomorrow.

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