It’s not that men with options always go for younger women. It’s that when older women were younger, they behaved like this chick.

 

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“Do you want to go to a pool party,” I asked her. “Where is it,” she asked.

Forget it. We’re not going.”
“No, wait, I want to go!”
“Nah, fuck it.

I didn’t go to the pool party, choosing instead to hit the gym, run errands, and work. She pouted all day at my apartment. I ignored her.

Later I asked her if she wanted to make a Costco run with me. She was thrilled. “Let’s make a list,” she exclaimed.

Now some of you may be wondering if I’m passive-aggressive, or that I am insane. Yet let’s examine the dynamics of it.

The first premise of my game: She is lucky to be with me. My company, in and of itself, is all that matters.

I like thinking in metaphors, and view my relationship with women as an airplane at the terminal. The plane is scheduled to leave, and it’s going somewhere cool.

Either get on the plain, or don’t. Whether you get on the plane or not, the plane will still leave the terminal. As a man, you should not give women options.

Women keep their power by being choosy. How often have you asked a woman out on a date only to have her ask you dozens of questions. She is asking these questions to keep her power. By questioning you, she is unconsciously thinking, “He had better impress me with the details, or I’ll tell him I’m not interested.”

I do not give women this power over me. She gets to see me on my terms, or she doesn’t.

If I had told my girl the pool party was at a hotel, would her answer have been different than if I had told her it was at a friend’s house?

Her questions pissed me off, and she knew it. Later she said, “I just want to be with you. It doesn’t matter where we go!” That is an answer more acceptable, and I rewarded her good behavior with my affection.

I am not an unreasonable man, and recognize there are logistics-related reasons to ask where a date is going to occur. Those questions must follow the affirmative answer.

Here is how the conversation should have gone – and, indeed, will go in the future, now that she knows what’s up:

Want to go to a pool party?”
“Yes, sounds great!”
“Cool. It’s at my friend’s apartment complex. We should head out around 3.

Always let your girl know that you are running shit. She doesn’t get to decide what you’re doing. She either answers yes, or no. She either gets to join you, or not. Because whatever she says, you’ll still be doing what you’re going to do.

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Unless she’s a gold digger looking to use you as a sperm donor and ATM, game > money: http://www.businessinsider.com/gizmodo-blogger-slams-hedge-fund-guy-she-met-on-okcupid-for-being-nerdy-and-being-the-magic-world-champ-2011-8

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I had finished a long workweek when one of my girls called me, begging me to come out. “I’m tired,” I told her, and had in any event just taken some sleeping pills.

“I’m going to bed.”
“No, please come out.”
“Why?”
“I want to be seen with you.”

Women increase their status with other women by presenting a high-value man. She really wanted me to come out, because it would have impressed the girls she was with. It would have made her seem more valuable, because she was with me.

My life mindset is to be the man I want to be. My game mindset is to be the kind of man women want to be seen with.

When you leave the house, you should be asking yourself: Right now, do I look like the kind of man an attractive woman would want to be seen with? If you look slovenly, with a bad haircut and Old Navy jeans, why would you expect a woman to be receptive to your approach?

Women talk non-stop about relationships, and every woman wants to be able to “brag on” her man. If you are the kind of man a woman wants to talk to her friends about, then you will have more women than you can handle.

Guys need to realize that women do not live in the same world as we do. As a man, I don’t care if my friends or complete strangers on the street find my girls attractive. I care if my girl makes me hard, will fuck whenever I want, and will please me in the bedroom.

Although most guys are not as extreme as I am – that is, guys want “arm candy” to some extent – we are much less worried about what our friends think of the women we date. Think about it.

How many times have you railed a chick of low-quality, knowing your friends would ridicule you the next morning? Did thinking, “My friends are going to joke on me,” actually stop you from getting the bang? Of course not. You went for it anyway, and then took your lumps like a ‘G.

Women have an entirely different mindset. To a woman, what her friends will think is more important than what she thinks. One might even say that women are incapable of thinking for themselves, but instead are part of a hive mind.

If you look like a slob with a bad haircut who is wearing Old Navy clothing, why would a woman want to be seen with you? If you are a do-nothing, boring guy with no life story, why would you be someone she’d want to talk about.

Far more important than new pick-up openers or routines is looking like a man women want to be seen with. Getting in shape and finding your look will do far more to improve your game than the latest “social dynamics” DVD’s.

If you want to meet women, first become a man worth meeting.

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A recent comment illustrates an approach to game that is different from mine.

In a post about how I meet women, the guy told me that I should be making more approaches:

But I disagree completely with no approaching. You may think you’re doing what you want by relying on your high value to draw women to you, but what is wrong with supplementing your success with many approaches to get women who are hotter than you would normally pull?

If I give off the impression of a man who never approaches, that’s a false one. I do make a reasonable number of approaches, though probably fewer than most men reading game sites. Let’s assume that according to a Platonic ideal, I don’t make enough approaches. Why don’t I approach more often?

Some men treat meeting women like a video game. You want to score points by getting numbers, making out, having notches, and collecting flags. That is perfectly cool, and that used to be me.

I remember the days when I used the lingo. I’d speak of “number closes” and “kiss closes.” Overcoming approach anxiety to approach an attractive woman in broad daylight, with an audience, was exuberating. The buzz was greater than any other intoxicant. I’d tell all of my friends.

I remember my first make-out session with a hot woman at a bar, the first time a girl gave me a hand job in a busy street while people tricked out of the Hemlock (causing the cops to approach us), and the first time a woman gave me a blow job in the back of a bar. I’ve fucked chicks in alleyways near popular bars, and finger-banged girls on dance floors. Some of stories seemed so incredible that even good friends didn’t believe me.

Meeting and banging lots of different women all the time is novel, and the novelty has worn off. Now my approach to meeting women is different.

Today my focus is on having regular sex with attractive women while not dealing with too much hassle, drama, or bullshit. For example, when a woman shit tests me, I usually blow her out rather than find a way to pass her test. In my experience, women who shit test you are bitches. I can play the game well enough to fuck her. But do I want to?

Forget that noise. On Friday I made one girl beg her friends to leave the bar after my response to her shit test. She had shit tested my attire, and so I made her question her self-worth and prophesied her future spinsterhood.

I remember reading one of Roosh’s posts on Twitter, where he noted lacing up his shoes felt like work. I remember the days of doing non-stop approaches. It was a great experience, and it’s something every man who wants to meet great women must do.

Now, though, I would rather live a lifestyle that attracts women who are down to fuck regularly rather than go out hunting all the time. I live a healthy lifestyle, and prefer sleeping, reading, and hanging out with my friends to collecting notches.

Obviously I am still interested in meeting more women, or having this blog and reading Day Bang would be a waste of time. My difference with many of you is measured in degrees rather than in kind. I would rather meet one or two really cool (or at least tolerable) girls whom I bang regularly for 3 months, than bang several new chicks each month. Yet, like you, I remain interested in meeting new, beautiful, and exciting women.

Using “lifestyle game,” I am able to get the sex I want with the women I want. Getting laid on a man’s terms the entire point of game. If you want to meet dozens of women, god bless you. That’s simply not where I am right now, and thus my game may differ from yours.

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I found this online dating profile highly amusing.

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At the Roosh V Forum, someone asked what different “types” of games there are. While having no desire to write a taxonomy of game, I will describe my style of game. First, a brief discussion of marketing – which is useful in understanding game.

Within every industry, there are often budget disputes between the marketing and product development sides. Should you spend more money advertising your product, or use those dollars to create a better product? Saying you should do “both” isn’t helpful, as “both” could mean 70% marketing, 30% product design, or vice versa.

Many of you may read bodybuilding Men’s Health style magazines. You’ve seen advertisements for nutritional supplements. Did you know most supplement companies spend the largest part of their budget on marketing? Product design is secondary.

In most cases, the product you are buying is not especially good. Instead, it’s been marketed to trick you into thinking it’s good. Ultimately, that’s the “PUA” style of game.

With PUA game, you take a dorky guy, teach him some card tricks, dress him flamboyantly, and send him out into the world to “fake it until he makes it.” You emphasize marketing an inferior product over creating a superior product. Some will say PUA works, so there is no problem.

Yet I have been at clubs where your PUA’s go. I watched them get blown out by women, laughed at, and never get laid. PUA/marketing-over-substance game is ineffective. Tricking attractive women into sleeping with you is far harder than selling overpriced supplements.

My style of game is quite different, as my game is merely an outgrowth of my overall life philosophy. To use a corny Taoist metaphor: Game is a branch from my tree of life.

Meeting women happens incidentally to my life. Last weekend, for example, our  friend had an art exhibit. There were beautiful women everywhere, including some French women who were on vacation and DTF. We met them not because we sought them. We met them just because we live fun lives.

When my friends and I go out, we are usually as much interested in goofing off and catching up than we are in meeting women. Yet we always meet women. Sure, we’ll do an approach here-and-there. Most of the time, however, the women will flock over to us. Nearly none of our approaches are “cold.”

We meet so many women because we are good looking guys who lift weights, wear fashionable clothing, have good social skills, don’t act like fools, are supremely confident, and we take care of our appearances.

No one leaves the crib looking like a slob – or wearing Ed Hardy. We don’t use PUA openers or ask about the fight happening outside. We good off, have fun, and the women come over to us.

Thus, if a guy comes to me saying he can’t make women, I don’t ask him his opening lines. I tell him to start doing squats and eating more protein. I tell him to read a book, pick up an interesting hobby, start a business, and travel.

Once a man starts living the lifestyle of a man – that is, one filled with masculine activities – the women will come to him.

PUA style game is still important, and I read the game blogs and Roosh’s forum for tips. Still, most guys would nevertheless be better served by getting into shape, getting their careers in order, and developing good friendships with guys.

Game is marketing, and it should be no more than 25% of your time budget. The other 75% should be devoted to creating a superior product – namely, you.

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If you live in a huge city or other tourist destination, this is an effective neg to use on women: “Where are you visiting from?”

If she is actually a tourist, you can make conversation with her about her visit. She will first ask you how you could tell she was a tourist, and the clever among you can create an entire routine based on this neg. (I have my own routine, and will share it with you if you send me a good one.)

Most of the time, however, the girl will be a local. They all answer the same way, “Why do you think I’m a tourist?!” Again, you can create an entire routine around this neg.

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We’ve already discussed marketing yourself towards your niche. My niche is women who tend to view men as inherent leaders – that is, women who want men to dominate them. It has been successful for me in real life, and a recent scientific study shows it may work well for you:

men with negative, sexist attitudes towards women, justifying male privilege, were more likely to use assertive strategies, which may serve to ‘put women in their place’ in a submissive or yielding role during courtship. Women with sexist attitudes towards members of their own gender were more likely to be responsive to men’s assertive strategies. This suggests that they find men who treat them in a dominant way during courtship more desirable, because it is consistent with their sexist ideology.

I take exception to the focus on “negative, sexist attitudes towards women,” as my attitude is generally negative towards all humanity. Men are generally fat slobs with nothing interesting to talk about. As Thoreau wrote: “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” Such men are no friends of mine.

Yet when dealing with women, only my “misogyny” will shine through. It becomes manifestly evident that the woman should follow my lead. She should be dominated by me, and if she thinks she’ll run shit, there is going to be a problem.

Occasionally a woman will grab my hand to lead me through a bar. I always stop her immediately. I ensure my hand is held in the power position (that is, my wrist is on top of hers), and I lead her. Words are not exchanged, but she understands immediately who is in charge.

Not every woman responds well to my attitude. That’s cool. Women who don’t like my swagger are the exact kinds of women whom I dislike. It’s better for us to part ways early in the night. Sure, I could play along, run game, and have sex with her. Yet sex with fussy womenchild is boring. I am not so in need of sex that tolerating bullshit is worth the payoff.

Moreover, enough women appreciate my aggressiveness that I do not hide when accused of misogyny. Instead, I answer the allegation straightforwardly: “Think what you want. But if you’re my girl, you’ll do what I say.”

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Pick-up follows a Pareto principle (the 80/20 rule). That is, 80% of your pick-ups will occur 20% of the time. If a club is open for four hours, your best chance of meeting women will be in a given one-hour block of time. Some practical implications emerge.

First, when I go to a bar for the first time, I recon it. My goal is not to meet women. Instead, I’m observing the scene. When do people hook up? What are the patterns? Eventually I’ll find the window where hooks-ups occur, and use that to my later advantage.

Second, I stack bars. My friend’s favorite joint is a hotel bar. That bar does not pick up until 12:30 a.m. or so. Since there’s no real pick-up scene until after midnight, why start off at that bar?

Instead of starting at the bar that doesn’t pick up until late, we’re going to find a bar where where the sixty-minute window is from 10:30 p.m. until 11:30. We’ll either hook up with girls at that bar, or do a venue change, taking them to the hotel bar right as it starts popping. (Fortunately the hotel bar is large enough that there’s never a line. We can roll right in around midnight.)

By attending two bars – both during their prime pick-up times – we’ll increase our odds of meeting lots of women, getting phone numbers to keep the pussy pipeline flowing, and having one night stands.

Third, if I haven’t met a woman during the sixty-minute window, I will sometimes bounce. On the one hand, a man must fight and claw for sex. He should never quit. Yet sometimes I am tired, and it’s best to preserve my energy, time, and money for the next night. (The great thing about the hotel bar is that you have a solid change of hooking up almost until the minute the bar closes. Take a nap, go out late, and still bang.)

Fourth, I make maximum approaches during the Pareto window. In one favorite club, I would chill near the bar with a drink, get my mind right, and make causal conversation with women. Often I’d pick a woman up at the bar, but when that didn’t happen, I would bounce through the bar like a pin ball. Women are the bumpers, and I’d bounce between them until finding one that didn’t bounce me away. Starting at one end of the bar, I’d do approach after approach, sometimes as man as 10 approaches in a few minutes.

I was never skunked at that venue, and whenever friends were in town, I’d bring them there. (They were always amazed at how easy it was to meet women when we went out.)

Understanding the Pareto principle is important for pick-up, and any observant man should be able to find the sweet spot of every bar where his chances of hooking up are most likely to occur.

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